As I was cleaning out one of the thousand areas that needs to be cleaned out in my house, I stumbled upon an old high school picture of me and my high school best friend, Amy. At times I find it hard to believe I am almost 41. Looking at that picture of us in our softball uniforms on the bus made me feel my age. That was a lifetime ago.
The picture instantly brought back a flood of memories. Amy was such a good friend to me. She put up with my goofiness, my practical jokes, my loud self. We played volleyball and softball together. We loved playing cards and just hanging out. We went on each others family vacations. I spent many, many hours at her house and ate LOTS of her parents food. It was truly a second home. I can only hope, my children find a friend such as she was to me. She encouraged me to be a better person by her example. She is a hard worker, honest, kind, and selfless. Not to mention one heck of a volleyball and softball player!!
We graduated high school, went to different colleges, but remained friends. When she was married, I was her maid of honor. She was also a bridesmaid in my wedding. For a long time, I did a good job of staying in touch, making those calls to see how she was, making time to visit. As the years went on, the kids increased in number, and somehow, bit by bit, I have let her slip away. I have not made that time in my life to be a friend to her as I should have. What a shame I have allowed this to happen.
The good news is, it’s not too late! I hope to remedy this situation. I have to admit, I have resolved to do this before and have failed. However, I will try again and hopefully get it right. I will be better for it.
Making time to talk with someone, to visit with someone, is how we show our love. We demonstrate how important they are to us by carving out that time. Otherwise, it’s all lip talk isn’t it? It doesn’t mean much. We can’t say we love and care for someone, and not act on it. Love is not an idea, love is our life put in action.
In the same way is it enough to say we love Christ, but then never spend any quality time with Him. Prayers before meals are important, short prayers throughout the day are important, but are we really making the sacrifices necessary to spend quiet time with Christ each day in prayer?
It is amazing how difficult it can be to just sit quietly and be with the Lord. I am the first to admit this was a struggle for me. When I sat down a thousand things came to my mind that needed to be done. I didn’t have 15 minutes to sit quietly and pray. I would sit down later in the day when the time was better. Somehow, the time never came. And like my relationship with Amy, my life in Christ became something theoretical, and not something practical. With my mouth I could say I loved Christ, but there was no proof in my actions. Something needed to be done.
I know I am not alone in that struggle. As was pointed out to me by a priest once, we cannot give what we don’t have. If I don’t spend time with Christ, quality time, how can I be expected to give the best of myself? It is simply not possible. However, I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me. (Phil 4:13)
Many of us have let relationships slip away. A new year is a great time to make time reinvigorate those old friendships. Even more, this new year is a time to look at how much time each day we make to be quietly with Christ. More, are we teaching our children to make that time? I know how difficult this can be, but it truly is the cornerstone around which all else is laid. It’s not going to be easy, but I can certainly make more time in my life to spend in quiet prayer.
So a couple New Year’s resolutions for me, reconnect with Amy and make more time for quiet prayer with Christ. Say a prayer that I am able to follow through and I will keep you in my prayers so that you can find that time as well. JMJ
Could You Not Watch One Hour With Me? (Mt 26:40)
Make time to spend with the Lord in Exposition. At Guardian Angels, there is Exposition every Thursday, 3-9pm, and First Fridays, 8am-8pm. Please consider taking time out of this hectic life to spend in silent prayer with God. Feel free to contact me with any questions.