My dear mother is headed down as I type to Key West for a month. My parents have always loved visiting the Keys and it has been a dream to go down for a month once they finally hit retirement. Well, the time has come. I couldn’t be happier for them but will miss them terribly. I am very blessed that my mother is often at my home helping me love, care for, and clean up after all these children! She is affectionately called “Dez." When there is a Dez sighting there are little screams of pleasure, followed by running outside to welcome her. She is a very well loved Dez. Over the next five weeks, we will have to go it without the Dez. She will be missed by all.
Many of us have family and friends that live far away or that we don’t get to see that often. How is it that we stay connected to them? The obvious answer is technology and technology is a great gift. Sending a text, picture, or just talking allows us to remain in touch. However, it isn’t always easy to get on the phone. I know in my daily life, most of the day it is nearly impossible to really get on my phone. A quick message here or picture there but it leaves much to be desired to feel truly connected. If I try to talk on the phone, it seems like the whole house blows up. They sense that I am weak and unable to keep order and remain polite on the phone at the same time. Either I find myself making exaggerated gestures getting them to be quiet and do what they should or I ask the person I am speaking with to hold on a moment while I put the phone on mute and yell at the kids to do what they should before they regret it. Don’t judge me. We have all been there.
Let’s just say technology is good, but has it’s limits.
What about those we can no longer speak to on the phone even if we do find a quiet moment? What about those who have gone before us in death. Is there a way to stay connected to them?
I have found the best way to stay connected to someone, alive or deceased is to pray for them. This time spent in prayer, allows me to call to mind my loved ones and ask God to watch over them. Not only am I keeping them in my thoughts, but I am bringing God into our relationship. In so doing, I am uniting myself more closely to God and entrusting those that I love into his care. Drawing God into any relationship is only going to strengthen it.
I am grateful when people ask me to pray for them or a prayer intention. Having people to pray for keeps me praying, and praying is spending time with God. What better way to spend my time than with Him who loves me above all else?
Prayer is such a simple thing in some ways, but it can seem so daunting at the same time. People want to pray, but they don’t know how. I understand these emotions well. I have experienced them myself. But prayer, like anything else, just needs to be done one step at a time. You have to crawl before you can walk and walk before you run.
Over the upcoming weeks, I am going to have various short ways you can pray. This isn’t going to be rocket science, it is going to be simple and practical. If you are already doing it, good for you! If not, give it a try. You will see the difference in your life.
As for life without Dez, we will have to carry on somehow until she returns. Until then, you will be in thoughts and prayers Mom. Safe travels my dear mother. JMJ
The Morning Offering
So the best place to start is at the beginning. Starting each day in prayer to God sounds go but can be difficult in practice. You need to get in a habit of praying when you first wake up and offering your day to God. All of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly. If you start your day with this intention in mind, even your difficult moments can be borne with peace in our hearts. As Christ suffered, so I am going to offer my sufferings up to him. In the same way, all my joys are that much more when shared with Christ. This is the prayer that I use each day:
O Jesus, through the Immaculate Heart of Mary, I offer you all my prayers, works, joys, and sufferings of this day. For all the intentions of your Sacred Heart, in union with the Masses said throughout the world, for the reparation of sins, for the intentions of the Holy Father and the intentions of all my associates. Amen.